Ask Dr. Karen - August 29
Thank you for the wonderful lecture. I learned a lot!
If one focuses (eye contact and speak-wise) on an individual
questioner, does one risk losing the rest of the group? How do
you handle it when several people are talking at the same time?
When you are talking to a group there should only be one person
at a time asking a question. (Best to have someone with a
microphone go out in the audience and ask one person at a time
to talk.) If more than one asks then ask that to speak one at a
time so that you can do his or her question justice. If more
than one person is talking announce that you are waiting for the
moment when everyone listens.
When you answer a question look at the person as you smile
slightly and nod (unless itís a sad question). You do not
necessarily need to wait for them to ask another question. Nod
to acknowledge the person when you finish. And then turn to the
audience to respond to another question.
Use your body and eye language to single out the person youíre
talking to. If you look at everyone theyíll speak out to get
your attention. Identify the one person and donít look at anyone
else until youíre finished speaking
When you are presenting to a large audience you should look at
one person at a time for a moment and then turn to another. You
canít give attention to everyone at the same time. You can do so
one person at a time.
Does this help?
I can tell that you have thought this through and that you
have experience speaking to groups. Your advice is very
practical and helpful. But also important- I feel,
intuitively, that I can do it! It just makes good sense. I
can hardly wait until I teach again next week to put it to
work -- for me and for my class.
What can I say except that I wish I had met you and read
your book years ago.
Thank you and I hope you have a very pleasant Labor Day